If I Lead, Does She Sit Down?" – Why Kenyan Men & Women are Fighting for the Steering Wheel
Let’s not beat around the bush:
As a man, when I lead… does that mean my woman must chill, shut it, and play backup singer in our duet of life?
Short answer: No.
Long answer: Keep reading, bro.
Kenyan men have been crying louder than a rejected tender—“Women don’t submit anymore!”
Meanwhile, Kenyan women are rolling their eyes so hard, they’re seeing their ancestors.
Welcome to the love Olympics: the tug-of-war edition.
Short answer: No.
Long answer: Keep reading, bro.
Kenyan men have been crying louder than a rejected tender—“Women don’t submit anymore!”
Meanwhile, Kenyan women are rolling their eyes so hard, they’re seeing their ancestors.
Welcome to the love Olympics: the tug-of-war edition.
Drama Loading
So let’s clear the air before the next relationship dies in the group chat.
Leadership is not dictatorship. This ain’t State House.
Being “the man” doesn’t mean you speak and thunder claps. It doesn’t mean she becomes your unpaid intern or personal chef with zero opinions.
If your idea of leading is giving ultimatums over mchele and mutura, you need to sit down and read Ephesians again—without skipping the part where Christ DIED for His bride.
Yeah. DIED.
Not “DM'd her occasionally,” not “paid rent then disappeared,” but full-on sacrifice.
Still Arguing?
Now, ladies, don’t think I’m letting y’all off the hook either.
Submission isn’t slavery. It’s not, “He leads so I act dumb.”
It’s trust. Partnership. It’s not you going full Iron Lady and deciding, “If I earn more, I make the rules.” Girl. This isn’t a salary competition. You’re not in HR.
Let’s be honest—some of us have trauma, not strategy. We’ve confused control for protection and ego for order. The Bible said “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ,” but y’all are out here submitting to vibes and MPESA confirmations.
Peace Looks Like This
Let me break it to you gently: if you BOTH want the trousers, you better start doing laundry together.
Real leadership isn’t about who’s louder, richer, or taller. It’s about who’s willing to serve.
A man who leads like Christ makes submission a joy, not a job. And a woman who submits out of trust, not fear, brings peace, not power struggles.
It’s 2025. Kenyan couples: Can we retire the drama and level up to spiritual maturity?
Because if your relationship looks like a political rally every week, maybe it’s not love—it’s just ego with a love song playlist.
👉 If your man led like Christ… would you still feel the need to take control, or are you more comfortable running things because you don’t trust anyone but yourself?
.
So let’s clear the air before the next relationship dies in the group chat.
Leadership is not dictatorship. This ain’t State House.
Being “the man” doesn’t mean you speak and thunder claps. It doesn’t mean she becomes your unpaid intern or personal chef with zero opinions.
If your idea of leading is giving ultimatums over mchele and mutura, you need to sit down and read Ephesians again—without skipping the part where Christ DIED for His bride.
Yeah. DIED.
Not “DM'd her occasionally,” not “paid rent then disappeared,” but full-on sacrifice.
Still Arguing?
Now, ladies, don’t think I’m letting y’all off the hook either.
Submission isn’t slavery. It’s not, “He leads so I act dumb.”
It’s trust. Partnership. It’s not you going full Iron Lady and deciding, “If I earn more, I make the rules.” Girl. This isn’t a salary competition. You’re not in HR.
Let’s be honest—some of us have trauma, not strategy. We’ve confused control for protection and ego for order. The Bible said “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ,” but y’all are out here submitting to vibes and MPESA confirmations.
Peace Looks Like This
Let me break it to you gently: if you BOTH want the trousers, you better start doing laundry together.
Real leadership isn’t about who’s louder, richer, or taller. It’s about who’s willing to serve.
A man who leads like Christ makes submission a joy, not a job. And a woman who submits out of trust, not fear, brings peace, not power struggles.
It’s 2025. Kenyan couples: Can we retire the drama and level up to spiritual maturity?
Because if your relationship looks like a political rally every week, maybe it’s not love—it’s just ego with a love song playlist.
👉 If your man led like Christ… would you still feel the need to take control, or are you more comfortable running things because you don’t trust anyone but yourself?
.
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