Dating 101: When the hard is hardening

Dating can be hard. Sometimes, it can feel like you are stuck in a cycle of disappointment, frustration, and loneliness. You may wonder if you are doing something wrong, if you are not good enough, or if you will ever find someone who loves you for who you are. You may feel like giving up on dating altogether and resigning yourself to a life of solitude.


But don't despair. Dating is not a hopeless endeavor. It is a journey of discovery, growth, and connection. It is a way of finding out more about yourself, your preferences, your values, and your potential. It is also a way of finding out more about others, their stories, their dreams, and their personalities. It is a way of creating meaningful and beautiful relationships that can enrich your life and make you happy.


Well hey there!


Of course, dating is not easy. It requires patience, courage, and resilience. It requires that you face your fears, overcome your insecurities, and deal with rejection. It requires that you be honest, respectful, and compassionate. It requires that you be open, flexible, and adventurous. It requires that you be yourself, but also willing to grow and change.


So how do you push through the hard times and keep dating? Here are some tips that may help:


•  Remember your why: Why do you want to date? What are you looking for in a partner? What are your goals and expectations for dating? Having a clear vision of what you want can help you stay motivated and focused. It can also help you filter out the people who are not compatible with you or who do not share your vision.




Okay,,,so now what?


•  Be positive: Dating can be stressful and exhausting, but it can also be fun and exciting. Try to focus on the positive aspects of dating, such as meeting new people, learning new things, having new experiences, and feeling alive. Avoid negative self-talk, such as blaming yourself, doubting yourself, or criticizing yourself. Instead, affirm yourself, praise yourself, and celebrate yourself. You are worthy of love and happiness.


•  Be proactive: Dating is not something that happens to you; it is something that you make happen. You have to take action to find and attract potential partners. You have to put yourself out there and be visible. You have to initiate contact and conversation. You have to ask for dates and follow up. You have to show interest and enthusiasm. You have to make the first move sometimes.


•  Be selective: Dating is not a numbers game; it is a quality game. You don't have to date everyone who shows interest in you or who you find attractive. You don't have to settle for less than what you deserve or want. You don't have to compromise your standards or values. You have the right to choose who you date and how you date them. You have the right to say no or end a relationship that is not working for you.


•  Be flexible: Dating is not a rigid process; it is a dynamic one. You don't have to follow a strict timeline or script for dating. You don't have to adhere to a set of rules or norms for dating. You don't have to fit into a certain mold or stereotype for dating. You can date at your own pace and style. You can date according to your own preferences and needs. You can date in different ways and settings.


•  Be adventurous: Dating is not a boring routine; it is an opportunity for exploration and experimentation. You don't have to date the same type of person or do the same type of activity every time. You don't have to limit yourself to your comfort zone or familiar territory. You can date outside your usual criteria or criteria. 

Yes, happiness is possible

Comments

Shan said…
Wow! Thanks for the advice
13 September 2023 at 12:35
SimonLedamaIsMe said…
You're so welcome 😊 like and share
18 September 2023 at 09:02
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