When you get the girl,, then lose her

 When you get the girl,, then lose her 


How does that happen, you may ask? Well, simply put, you get the girl of your dreams and you're all in the clouds about your amazing love story then BOOOOM!!! INSECURITIES, LOW SELF-WORTH AND YOU GUESSED IT. FINANCES make the dream a not-so-reality with living.

It all starts when you find the girl and you promise her all the cliches in the world, love happiness stability. Like, yeah that's all possible, right? WRONG!!! This is the real world and such doesn't exist. I know what you gonna say: Oh Simo why do you gotta be hating on love?  I actually love it, to be honest, it's just complicated-cue the groaning emoji 

But hey, why do we let such insecurities ruin our chances of love? Well, coming into this article I didn't really feel the need to be well, LOUD AND ALL. BUT COME ON!!!! Y'all can relate to when the ONE- the one who comes into the room and all you see is them. 

I for one had the same reaction, SIMP we call it. Yes, I was a SIMP for her. Bending on one knee for her, opening the door for her, spending on her like WTF? And you wonder why I lost her, I gave her too much power. I know this may come off as a Hey Dude. Tried actually posting relatable stuff? IN A MINUTE!!




Also, how to lose a girl 101, MAKE HER FEEL AS IMPORTANT AS ANYTHING. Remember by Bad Guys Post, well it's not the bad guy the ladies like it's the sense of carefree, tough, and masculine awe they possess. Too bad not all of us have that!  But confidence is the similarity!! Look, women are just COMPLICATED! You do enough, not good enough, you do too much, and BOOOOM! Friendzoned. 
What is a  man to do? I tell ya what to do. DGAF. IF YOU KNOW YOU KNOW!

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